I wanna talk about the ubber amazing, terrifying, majestic creature we call woman 🙃.
More specifically I want to talk about women’s attitude towards other women.
Probably you can already guess if you’ve read my ditties enough that something’s happened to spur these words to come out of my brain.
I have been stewing over some experiences lately because for the life of me I cannot wrap my head around something.
Why do women have to throw such shade and attitude towards other women???
I know I’m not the most normal being on the face of this earth…. I dress in my own fashion that sometimes doesn’t even make sense to me… I love to dance with no shoes on and realize I probably look like a mix of a stroke and a seizure all wrapped in one 😜 I hug people and I love having fun and being a free spirit.
What I don’t understand is why a spirited person is met with glares and bitchy looks?? I speak not only from experience but I have also observed other women on the receiving end of a shade throwing campaign from other females…
I can see you doing it… in fact most times you make it quite obvious. You get caught so red handed that you can’t even turn away in time to act like your not doing it.
And not only do I see it but I can feel it because the funk is so thick that it actually makes me feel like it must exhaust you to put so much energy into being like that… So stop. 🙂
Are you truly unhappy about something that you see me doing? Does something bother you about me because of the things you don’t like about yourself? Are you insecure about something that it feels good for you to sit back and throw shade and looks of disapproval? 🤔
I have done oodles and oodles of work in myself to get to the point where I can finally feel like I can be free to express myself in ways that makes my soul happy. It’s scary at times to be myself and not go with the crowd and what everyone else is doing… There are times when I feel like cowering back and making myself small again because the fear of what other people think and their judgement may creep into my thoughts.
So when I can feel your glares of disapproval it does take energy for me to let it roll off my back and continue to flutter around and be me. The true ME… not the one you think I should be.
I was reflecting over this with a friend the other day and my main question is what if I met your hate with hate and the same snarky attitude? I couldn’t even imagine the dynamic and how different it would be. Actually that’s a lie.. I do know because probably (read: definitely) at some point in the past I responded much differently than I choose to now and know the outcome.
Don’t you think we all have a hard enough time as it is with our own shitty committees in our heads that it would be much better if we greeted people with kindness?
Although I see the glares and crusty looks plastered on your faces I try my hardest to return those with smiles and kindness. I am secretly sending you massive amounts of love because it’s clear to me that you may be lacking a little bit of self love for yourself… which is then causing you to direct that out to others.
While most times it appears that the lights are on but no one is home upstairs 🙃 I actually have a lot going on in my pumpkin. Life is a big adventure to me and I am always learning and observing. But the thing I am focusing more on is how do I impact those around me?
I know the struggle I have within my own self and I know other women share the same sentiment. This may be why I am more mindful of what I bring to the people and space around me. A side effect to that is that I notice now more than ever what energy others are bringing…
Maybe that’s why I am struggling with this so much. Wouldn’t it be great if we could just skip over the nonsense and get right to the part where we all eat, drink, and be merry 🤘🏾.
I’m not saying that everyone has to like everyone. That’s not where I am going with this. But what I am getting is just because you don’t like someone you don’t have to harm them or go out of your way to ruin their time. What purpose does that truly serve? Just be kind and go about your merry little way.
In summary what this blurb may really be about is letting others know that it’s ok to not be normal. We are all unique in our own rights. Let’s celebrate our differences and weirdnesses and practice kindness to those while they are brave enough to step out and grow into it.
It’s fun 🙂 Trust me. I have a tribe of people that I know love and support me while I change and grow and possibly get more bizarre by the minute.
The shade and attitudes really don’t bother me so that it gets me down… The real struggle is that I have been in their shoes. And I know how amazing it feels to shed that skin and be on this side of the fence and that I truly wish for them and all of us to be free and happy.
Enough for now…
All my love…
a. Danielle ❣️